One thing that beats my understaanding is the fact that people just like sleeping around all the time with different people.
See, we as men have hormones and just want to get our groove on all the time, but for aperson that started having sex at atender age of 13, my sex drive has gone so low in the past three years considering that i was in arelationship that lasted 5 years and 4 months.....
So, after my relationship, i decided to take some time out and enjoy life and being single, but the memories of my past relationship and seeing my close friends enjoy their relationships with their partners made me think twice about getting back in to the dating game..
In a desparate move likely to suggest i was so lonely, i ended up talking to afriend of mine who offered to help me actually look for a suitable partner considering the fact that am very picky when it comes to the people that i settle down with..
The thing that shocked me was that all the people that i met just wanted to jump my bones and party in my pants..no one was intereted in dating and doing dinner and going out for drinks and the like.
This suprised me. one person in particluar said to me, so, hen are we hooking up and please dont forget to bring condoms and lube as well.. this shocked me...
One asked me whether i could host and whet time i would be getting off work..
Why is it that most people are interested in just sex?
To quote rodney chesters lines from noahs arc, i ask my self all the time," what happened to romance?, doesnt anyone date anymore?"
Because i need more than whats in ones pants thats for sure.
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Thursday, May 7, 2009
genital intergrity...
As a guy that has many female friends and is always hanging around them, I tend to get sucked in to their conversations every now and then.
Sex is always a top subject for discussion. Here, penis sizes are mentioned all the time and whether they like them “cut” or “uncut”.
It was never a big deal to me till when I came over to Kenya and heard my girlfriends say they would never date or let alone sleep with a man that has not been circumcised.
I let it go, but one day, I was seriously offended when I heard someone say that uncut men are dirty and that she would never sleep with them at all.
I was tempted to ask what she meant and this sparked off a serious debate. The ignorance that was exhibited surprised me.
The society we live in has made many people believe that not having a foreskin is the right thing to do. I stand to disagree with this.
I am not circumcised and am proud to say so. Many people are going to make so much noise about this, I know and how it is not masculine enough to declare that I am not circumcised, but hey, I am not. So go hang yourself.
The most popular reason that people state, is that men who have afore skin are dirty, and it is unhygienic. And who told you so when you don’t have one?
If you failed to keep yours clean and had to cut it off because of poor sanitation, don’t impose your hygiene issues on me. Period!!!
And those that come from a culture that depicts circumcision as a must please do us a favour and don’t impose your culture on to other people.
Many people are totally unaware that the foreskin actually requires no special care. It is just like any other body part and there are many benefits to keeping the foreskin intact like erotic pleasure and protects the thin skinned glans around the penis against injury by keeping them moist and soft.
I know I might sound too graphic, but hey, we are all consenting adults here and am so sorry for those that were circumcised at birth because you have no idea what am talking about here.
The glans are exposed when one is circumcised which explains why men circumcised take “forever” to reach orgasm.
Why would I deny myself the natural pleasure of enjoying sex simply because culture says I have to get circumcised?
People mistakenly believe that circumcised penis is cleaner. The myth that the penis with a foreskin is difficult to clean is exactly that. A myth
Cleaning is so simple and it amazes me that people fret so much about it. The big hoopla over hygiene is pure and unnecessary paranoia.
The fact that I have to undergo a painful process with injections of anesthesia to numb me up to cut off something that I was born with and which has no physical harm just is not worth it.
So, if you don’t want to marry me or have sex with me because am not circumcised, please don’t.
A peter that I talked to about the topic confessed that he was surprised to learn that his penis had been cut and part of it had been discarded when he was 9. “it didn’t look like my friends penis and I was furious as to why it was cut off.” I still am angry at my parents for doing it to me.” a furious peter added.
Another Sam has had to live with the fact that he had unsatisfactory results when he underwent the cut because his girlfriend of 3 years had pushed him to get circumcised.
He ended the relationship after he later on developed “meatal stenosis” a condition where his urinary opening narrowed making it hard for him to pass urine and leaving him with painful erections. “I would have preferred to have my foreskin intact” said Sam.
A visit to sites like www.norm.org goes to show you that men who were circumcised are growing back their foreskins. YES, they are growing them back, transforming themselves from circumcised to near natural in a few years for better sex, general comfort and emotional healing.
After listening to such testimonies, I still wondered why there are always these public advertisements in the press in the health magazines telling people to get circumcised because health experts say it is healthy.
Half of these experts are not circumcised as well and let us not forget that the circumcised penis is not immune to infections, sexually transmitted diseases, HIV or penile cancer as some people have been brainwashed to believe.
The major reason as to why circumcision persists according to a few fathers I spoke to is that many think penises should look alike. like father like son.
The weakest thing i heard was that in some cultures here in Kenya, you are not considered to be “a man” unless you are circumcised. Come on, how can you in your rightful mind even say that to a 40 year old man, who even has grand children is not a man just because he is not circumcised? You even go through the trouble of getting a name (kaha) to term them? Please……..
Get over it people. I am not my penis, I am not your expectation but I am the soul that lives within me.
Sex is always a top subject for discussion. Here, penis sizes are mentioned all the time and whether they like them “cut” or “uncut”.
It was never a big deal to me till when I came over to Kenya and heard my girlfriends say they would never date or let alone sleep with a man that has not been circumcised.
I let it go, but one day, I was seriously offended when I heard someone say that uncut men are dirty and that she would never sleep with them at all.
I was tempted to ask what she meant and this sparked off a serious debate. The ignorance that was exhibited surprised me.
The society we live in has made many people believe that not having a foreskin is the right thing to do. I stand to disagree with this.
I am not circumcised and am proud to say so. Many people are going to make so much noise about this, I know and how it is not masculine enough to declare that I am not circumcised, but hey, I am not. So go hang yourself.
The most popular reason that people state, is that men who have afore skin are dirty, and it is unhygienic. And who told you so when you don’t have one?
If you failed to keep yours clean and had to cut it off because of poor sanitation, don’t impose your hygiene issues on me. Period!!!
And those that come from a culture that depicts circumcision as a must please do us a favour and don’t impose your culture on to other people.
Many people are totally unaware that the foreskin actually requires no special care. It is just like any other body part and there are many benefits to keeping the foreskin intact like erotic pleasure and protects the thin skinned glans around the penis against injury by keeping them moist and soft.
I know I might sound too graphic, but hey, we are all consenting adults here and am so sorry for those that were circumcised at birth because you have no idea what am talking about here.
The glans are exposed when one is circumcised which explains why men circumcised take “forever” to reach orgasm.
Why would I deny myself the natural pleasure of enjoying sex simply because culture says I have to get circumcised?
People mistakenly believe that circumcised penis is cleaner. The myth that the penis with a foreskin is difficult to clean is exactly that. A myth
Cleaning is so simple and it amazes me that people fret so much about it. The big hoopla over hygiene is pure and unnecessary paranoia.
The fact that I have to undergo a painful process with injections of anesthesia to numb me up to cut off something that I was born with and which has no physical harm just is not worth it.
So, if you don’t want to marry me or have sex with me because am not circumcised, please don’t.
A peter that I talked to about the topic confessed that he was surprised to learn that his penis had been cut and part of it had been discarded when he was 9. “it didn’t look like my friends penis and I was furious as to why it was cut off.” I still am angry at my parents for doing it to me.” a furious peter added.
Another Sam has had to live with the fact that he had unsatisfactory results when he underwent the cut because his girlfriend of 3 years had pushed him to get circumcised.
He ended the relationship after he later on developed “meatal stenosis” a condition where his urinary opening narrowed making it hard for him to pass urine and leaving him with painful erections. “I would have preferred to have my foreskin intact” said Sam.
A visit to sites like www.norm.org goes to show you that men who were circumcised are growing back their foreskins. YES, they are growing them back, transforming themselves from circumcised to near natural in a few years for better sex, general comfort and emotional healing.
After listening to such testimonies, I still wondered why there are always these public advertisements in the press in the health magazines telling people to get circumcised because health experts say it is healthy.
Half of these experts are not circumcised as well and let us not forget that the circumcised penis is not immune to infections, sexually transmitted diseases, HIV or penile cancer as some people have been brainwashed to believe.
The major reason as to why circumcision persists according to a few fathers I spoke to is that many think penises should look alike. like father like son.
The weakest thing i heard was that in some cultures here in Kenya, you are not considered to be “a man” unless you are circumcised. Come on, how can you in your rightful mind even say that to a 40 year old man, who even has grand children is not a man just because he is not circumcised? You even go through the trouble of getting a name (kaha) to term them? Please……..
Get over it people. I am not my penis, I am not your expectation but I am the soul that lives within me.
Monday, May 4, 2009
celebs.....
When will Kenyan musicians become “celebrities”?
We all know how the celebrity craze has taken over. Celebrities have more television time, more radio airplay and fans than the presidents of this world.
I am a guy that loves music a lot-mostly all genres. The love that I have is way too much, that I get embarrassed sometimes to admit that I love a certain song because of the look the musician has, or the image attached to the musician.
It’s much easier to say you are Ne-Yo’s fun, Chris Brown or Rihanna’s fun. But please note: it’s embarrassing to say you feel a certain jam by Mongola, or by XYZ. Don’t get me wrong, the vocals are properly done, and so are the tracks. Everyone around you will look at you like you are “local”.
When I presented Nyota Ndogo in form of a DVD to my parents, I had already talked about her like she was the best thing to come out of Kenya. I went on and on about the vocal ability, the good range she had, lyrical content, the perfect diction and all that. It was obvious she was good.
I almost begged them to like her (you know how it is, you love someone and push her down everyone’s throat)
When the DVD started rolling, she looked like the girl next door. “Is this a documentary, or a music video?” asked my dad. This is when I realized that he was used to watching flashy videos, or if not flashy, the musicians were always looking good. Nice hair that was flying all over the place, eye shadow, the latest flashy tops and jeans with the attitude to go with it all.
Today, musicians have become idols to many young children and fashion icons too. Uganda takes the lead in this. Obsessions the leading dance cum singing all girl group made every teenager want to be part of them. From knee high boots, to low-rider jeans, and expensive human hair, with layers of make up, they were and still every teenage girl’s idol.
The disappointment on my eyes just makes me cry when i search the chats, read music reviews and society pages searching for the glamed celebrities and all I see are whacky pictures of Wahu wearing a more like mtushi faded green trouser, with two seasons off knee high boots (let’s not forget they are winter boots), and her dress top.
Jackie o shades are on, but she still rocks the small ones. I wonder why the even pay for DSTV in their homes. You would think that the E channel would teach them a thing or two about being celebrities.
Yes, there have been some moments when they try, they go to expensive restaurants for dinner, and stay in upper middle class neighborhoods like west lands and I don’t know where else, but am still waiting to hear that Redsan bought a house in Runda, or nameless is building an 8 million house in Mthaiga.
The chameleons, Bebe cool,Juliana, Lady Jay dee, Ray C,A.Y, Mwana F.A and Bobi wines of East Africa really define celebrities. They reside in mansions; have a fleet of 6 to 7 cars, ranging from Mercedes cars to Cadillac’s. Most of them with personalized number plates; they rock designer wear (what’s on at the moment basing on the world fashion market), shoot videos worth millions and live large.
It’s not that the Kenyan musicians don’t make a lot of money, we are all aware of their tantrums about refusing to perform unless they are paid what they asked for which according to them is “what they are worth”.
Nameless makes me shy away when he passes by in his surf. He earns big from the being an architecture too, or so he claims, although am yet to see the big buildings he has designed.
But we have to give it up for Prezzo the king of bling. The boy knows how to be a celebrity. He rolls like one. No wonder he has so many haters. He has made all Kenyan musicians look like amateurs. He came in to the game later than most, but he is doing his thing.
Searching for a musician that’s a celebrity, Nonny Gathoni, an entertainment reporter for citizen t.v says, these musicians have all it takes, but they just piss me off, they look to be displaced: “how can you claim to be a musician and say that you are in the show business, yet you have nothing to show off?”
She added,“This industry is all about showing off what you got and image is everything. Look at people in Uganda, I know some presenters who won’t let you go on screen if you aint all that. You have to be popping it. Its show business, it’s about flossing, let the Kenyan musicians step up to the plate.”
But still, we wonder when that time will come! When will the musicians take all the money that we give them, the love and not just sing but look like they sing and earn a living? Because by the look of things, looks like most of them are just doing it as a hobby and not a career.
In one of my many conversations about the subject, another entertainment journalist mentioned that apart from the longomba’s and a few other musicians most Kenyan musicians don’t know how to be celebrities. She added that they don’t know how to look good and the part. That’s why nobody cares about them sometimes she believes.Kenyan musicians should know that the public can be very impatient, before you know it, they have written you off as as gone if you don’t play the part you are supposed to play. They sing, make good music for us and put up nice performance, but we just can’t keep admiring other musicians yet we have our own that can do the same, and get celebritised
We all know how the celebrity craze has taken over. Celebrities have more television time, more radio airplay and fans than the presidents of this world.
I am a guy that loves music a lot-mostly all genres. The love that I have is way too much, that I get embarrassed sometimes to admit that I love a certain song because of the look the musician has, or the image attached to the musician.
It’s much easier to say you are Ne-Yo’s fun, Chris Brown or Rihanna’s fun. But please note: it’s embarrassing to say you feel a certain jam by Mongola, or by XYZ. Don’t get me wrong, the vocals are properly done, and so are the tracks. Everyone around you will look at you like you are “local”.
When I presented Nyota Ndogo in form of a DVD to my parents, I had already talked about her like she was the best thing to come out of Kenya. I went on and on about the vocal ability, the good range she had, lyrical content, the perfect diction and all that. It was obvious she was good.
I almost begged them to like her (you know how it is, you love someone and push her down everyone’s throat)
When the DVD started rolling, she looked like the girl next door. “Is this a documentary, or a music video?” asked my dad. This is when I realized that he was used to watching flashy videos, or if not flashy, the musicians were always looking good. Nice hair that was flying all over the place, eye shadow, the latest flashy tops and jeans with the attitude to go with it all.
Today, musicians have become idols to many young children and fashion icons too. Uganda takes the lead in this. Obsessions the leading dance cum singing all girl group made every teenager want to be part of them. From knee high boots, to low-rider jeans, and expensive human hair, with layers of make up, they were and still every teenage girl’s idol.
The disappointment on my eyes just makes me cry when i search the chats, read music reviews and society pages searching for the glamed celebrities and all I see are whacky pictures of Wahu wearing a more like mtushi faded green trouser, with two seasons off knee high boots (let’s not forget they are winter boots), and her dress top.
Jackie o shades are on, but she still rocks the small ones. I wonder why the even pay for DSTV in their homes. You would think that the E channel would teach them a thing or two about being celebrities.
Yes, there have been some moments when they try, they go to expensive restaurants for dinner, and stay in upper middle class neighborhoods like west lands and I don’t know where else, but am still waiting to hear that Redsan bought a house in Runda, or nameless is building an 8 million house in Mthaiga.
The chameleons, Bebe cool,Juliana, Lady Jay dee, Ray C,A.Y, Mwana F.A and Bobi wines of East Africa really define celebrities. They reside in mansions; have a fleet of 6 to 7 cars, ranging from Mercedes cars to Cadillac’s. Most of them with personalized number plates; they rock designer wear (what’s on at the moment basing on the world fashion market), shoot videos worth millions and live large.
It’s not that the Kenyan musicians don’t make a lot of money, we are all aware of their tantrums about refusing to perform unless they are paid what they asked for which according to them is “what they are worth”.
Nameless makes me shy away when he passes by in his surf. He earns big from the being an architecture too, or so he claims, although am yet to see the big buildings he has designed.
But we have to give it up for Prezzo the king of bling. The boy knows how to be a celebrity. He rolls like one. No wonder he has so many haters. He has made all Kenyan musicians look like amateurs. He came in to the game later than most, but he is doing his thing.
Searching for a musician that’s a celebrity, Nonny Gathoni, an entertainment reporter for citizen t.v says, these musicians have all it takes, but they just piss me off, they look to be displaced: “how can you claim to be a musician and say that you are in the show business, yet you have nothing to show off?”
She added,“This industry is all about showing off what you got and image is everything. Look at people in Uganda, I know some presenters who won’t let you go on screen if you aint all that. You have to be popping it. Its show business, it’s about flossing, let the Kenyan musicians step up to the plate.”
But still, we wonder when that time will come! When will the musicians take all the money that we give them, the love and not just sing but look like they sing and earn a living? Because by the look of things, looks like most of them are just doing it as a hobby and not a career.
In one of my many conversations about the subject, another entertainment journalist mentioned that apart from the longomba’s and a few other musicians most Kenyan musicians don’t know how to be celebrities. She added that they don’t know how to look good and the part. That’s why nobody cares about them sometimes she believes.Kenyan musicians should know that the public can be very impatient, before you know it, they have written you off as as gone if you don’t play the part you are supposed to play. They sing, make good music for us and put up nice performance, but we just can’t keep admiring other musicians yet we have our own that can do the same, and get celebritised
Monday blues!!
usually i get up at 7am on weekdays, but today, i had to wake up at 6am reason being, i had an assignment that i had to get done and it was still pending.......
walking has never been my thing but i have to do it daily and i hate it. dayyyymmm, how i wish i could get me a car.
But any ways, that aside, when i got to work,i found my boss waiting for me and telling me to get him aprojector. did this guy really think i didnt have what to do? any way, i just ignored him and did my assignment of which i was creatively stifold....on a monday morning imagine...
And then just as am about to settle down after forwarding my assignment, another guy walks in and tells me to open up to do a profile about myself and the like and a critic about my country.
A profile about my self? are you serious, how can i write about my self? thats like telling me to blow for my ego... but hey, its part of the job.
And on top of this all, remember am having a terrible hangover because i drunk too much over the weekend. There were many parties to attend but one topped them all which ill tell you about tomorrow... trust me, you have to hear this one...
walking has never been my thing but i have to do it daily and i hate it. dayyyymmm, how i wish i could get me a car.
But any ways, that aside, when i got to work,i found my boss waiting for me and telling me to get him aprojector. did this guy really think i didnt have what to do? any way, i just ignored him and did my assignment of which i was creatively stifold....on a monday morning imagine...
And then just as am about to settle down after forwarding my assignment, another guy walks in and tells me to open up to do a profile about myself and the like and a critic about my country.
A profile about my self? are you serious, how can i write about my self? thats like telling me to blow for my ego... but hey, its part of the job.
And on top of this all, remember am having a terrible hangover because i drunk too much over the weekend. There were many parties to attend but one topped them all which ill tell you about tomorrow... trust me, you have to hear this one...
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